« Puberty in Toddlers Reveals Ignored Chemical Dangers | Main | Satire Men Need Men: Studies Prove It »

Thursday, October 19, 2006


Best of luck with the new company! I'm a PR guy in Chicago...would be happy to brain through some ways to grow your biz...

And re the wife going back to work...I hear ya loud and clear!!

I guilt tripped my wife into going back to work, but by then our son was in kindergarten. It really is so stressful being the single earner when the employment situation isn't so good...

Yes. We have a big problem brewing next year, too, because Lael will be preschool age. It really is expensive out here.

Busy Dad: I may take you up on your offer.

It was fun to see your business website. Not that I understood any of it, but it looked interesting!

When it comes to making money through blogging, I had an awful thing happen to me just over a year ago. Somebody paid me to blog. For one month, the San Diego Reader paid me a whole lot of money for five weekly blog posts. The reason this was so awful is that it created an unreasonable expectation in my mind that I was now going to suddenly have a regular blogging income. Yeah, right. Good thing that's not my main reason for blogging.

Just the other day I had a small taste of those financial rewards again when I got my very first blogads ad. I was so happy I danced around the house. Ten. Whole. Dollars! Woo-hoo! Now if that would just become a regular thing...

We know how you feel. I was reading one blogger who said the only real way to make money from ads is to solicit and bill directly. Blogads, Google Ads and the rest take too big a piece of the pie.

I guess blogs are more of an entryway to other jobs, rather than a cash-generating cow. Ah well.

I know how you both must feel. I've been at home with my daughter now for 6 months and I also didn't work through most of my pregnancy. My husband has been great about keeping us all afloat and happy. However, we have talked about me going back to work here in the next few months.

It actually gives me hives to think about it. I wonder how I will go into a job and be a productive human being after being up with my daughter. I also worry I will show up to work with a vomit covered suit and not even notice. Not to mention I have actually forgotten what I did for a living (I used to be a graphic designer and copy writer for a small company). Still, I have been out of the game for over a year and my skills seem rusty. Why doesn't raising a healthy little person count for anything?

Anyway, I understand your wife completely. Best of luck to you both.

Thanks. If I had it my way, I'd stay home too. I want to be a part of my kids growing up, but it's just not a financial reality.

reason #245 not to have kids: They cost too much.


Sadly, it's true. Talk about your expensive hobbies.

In the San Francisco Bay Area preschool tuition averages $2800 a school year. Is Chicago similar? It was really difficult for us to afford this because we had children close in age.

I don't know what the average is, but where we live in Chicago, it's about $10,000 a year for Seth. The other option was even more expensive. (Keep in mind my wife wanted Seth in a Jewish preschool).

In the Southern California suburbs we lived in, it was $3,500 - $5,000. If we had been in different suburbs, it would have been more.

In Los Angeles, the price ranged from $3,500 to about $50,000. I'm sure you can find them that high in San Francisco. ;--)

Thanks for the comparative numbers for preschool tuition. My husband is just as shocked as I am. Guess we were lucky in finding something great at such a reasonable price.

One question I've had is that if it costs $10000 per academic year or approximately $1000 per month, wouldn't it be reasonable for ten parents to get together and hire a GREAT teacher at $6000 per month and an assistant at $3500 per month to teach their kids with $500 for miscelaneous supplies and field trips?

I'd like to note that in-state college tution for me next fall will be $2000 and would $7500 if I was going this year as an out-of-state student. That's for the whole year and it's a COLLEGE education. 16 or 17 credits a semester...

What are they teaching your children?

(also, my private college was 23k a year when I went there. But still!!)

Nadine: We actually discussed that solution, but it seemed like a difficult endeavor moving to a new city just days before school started up.

Autumn: That's a sobering thought about the cost of school. I never thought to compare preschool directly to a college education.

I think I'm going to lose sleep over that realization.

just a thought - why preschool? Only posing the question because it seems our cultures feeds us the fear that our kids need to be in institutional learning earlier and earlier...

That's not to say that either son or mom would really want to go back to being together for full days - but just a thought.

Another thing - have you read Your Money Or Your Life? Not that it's a solution for current issue - but it was a groundbreaking idea for us in terms of simplifing and changing our finances...You guys are probably on this path already, but might change perspective or taste of your current experiences.

Best of luck - I love reading your blog - and hope my comments don't come off too sassy.

Any coverage or thoughts on the Cornell study on early tv/autism link. I say link lightly of course - this was only correlative research - but I expect a media field day pouncing on it (or not pouncing, depending on reaction.)

Kate, I like it when people challenge me. I prefer people say what they think.

We decided that preschool was important for our kids largely on the basis of our personal experiences: both of us were introverts who needed as much socialization as possible to function well.

The key for us was being able to choose a preschool that worked for Seth. So far it seems to be working well, though Seth’s classmates in the California school posed some serious challenges for us. But he needed something since we don’t do day care and Seth wasn’t meeting enough children in our neighborhood.

Preschool is even more important in Chicago, because we live in the city where meeting other kids is challenging. Seth seems to have a better-behaved group of classmates in Chicago than Southern California.

And Seth is learning a lot, which we reinforce at home. I think I might feel differently if I was a stay-at-home dad. Keep in mind, Seth is only in school for about 4 hours and already has play dates with classmates a couple times a week.

I haven't read Your Money or Your Life? but I wrestle with the concept every day. It would take a lengthy conversation to explain my feelings on this. And thanks for reading!

As for the Autism study: I found it this morning and have been reading the actual report. I decided against rushing out a post because the issue is so complex, and I'm uncomfortable with the leaps of logic the researchers made. I hope to post on it in a day or so, but my work load is heavy, so I'm not sure.

Actually, Seth's in a junior kindergarten, which ups the academics a notch in anticipation of private school. A regular preschool would be about $2,000 less.

Is it working?

He's barely four and he reads simple words and phrases. He can write every letter of the alphabet (some better than others). He has blossomed socially and knows at least a little about his religion, including a few Hebrew songs and prayers.

And he absolutely loves it. He's a happy kid.

Oh, and he's met his future wife in class.

The comments to this entry are closed.

Become a Fan

Blog powered by Typepad


  • The opinions expressed on DadTalk are the author(s) and the author(s) alone. We make no warranties on the accuracy of the information. Any personal or financial decisions you make based on the information presented on this website are YOUR SOLE RESPONSIBILITY ONLY.