I really feel bad for preschool teachers; they get a raw deal. Just six days ago I wrote that our new preschool teacher had calmed down the ruffians of last year’s class, but since then, there have been two more incidents.
My wife witnessed the first one five days ago. D apparently slapped my son in the face while at lunch. He then proceeded to slap a girl in the face immediately afterward. The teachers quickly moved the boy into time out, my wife reports.
Then right before lunch on Friday a smaller boy somehow irritated D, who responded by shoving his head hard into a metal door. The smaller boy of course burst into tears.
When it comes to boys, I’m not surprised at a little light hitting or slapping even though I highly dislike it. But this was a calculated, deep-down mean, adult-like physical attack.
The teachers were quick to calm things down and separate the boys. I made a comment to the effect that maybe D needs to be taken out of school until his parents, who apparently are separated, can work out D’s issues.
While I can understand the teacher’s sentiment that we shouldn’t just kick out troubled children, I admit upfront that I’m somewhat selfish when it comes to my son’s best interests. But as Phil over at A Family Runs Through It and KittyBean point out, mean kids are everywhere. There simply is no place to hide.
That doesn’t meant we can’t manage the situation. The preschool teachers took such swift control of the situation in both incidents, that I think Seth will learn that violent behavior won’t be tolerated. And certainly this boy won’t be visiting our home until his parents work out the violence issues.
But if my wife and I find violent behavior spreading to multiple children on a regular basis, then we will consider the option of pulling Seth from the school. Fortunately, I don’t think that will happen.
I suspect we will face much tougher situations once Seth enters elementary school, where parental input is more limited and politically complicated. If you have any doubt, read these fantastic posts by DaddyChip on dealing with a bad principal: Part I, Part II, Part III.
As someone recently said to me, parents grow as people almost as much as kids do. It’s so true. When I was young, I could get away with being passive about politicians, school administrators and our troubled society. But now that I’m a parent, it seems I must be ever vigilant in dealing with society’s ills and how it impacts my children. And here I thought my wife and I were just raising children.